I’m Lily Calfee, a lifelong foodie, feminist, and advice-giver.
I offer a comfortable space for you to look your demons straight in the eye. I'll hold you accountable, but my office is a judgement-free zone because I have walked the same path you are on now. Together, we'll transform your relationship with food, creativity, and most importantly, yourself.
It’s not surprising to me that I ended up with this job. I’ve been guiding women towards self-love my whole life—now I just have more tools and a coaching certificate, and I couldn’t be more jazzed about it.
I’ve learned that everyone experiences trauma, and those who survive and even benefit from a traumatic experience are the people who have the best tools and support. I was lucky enough to be born under the sign of Virgo, so I am constantly hunting for tools to support myself and my people.
When I was sexually assaulted in college, I rebuilt myself using cooking and painting as crutches. Every minute I spent in the kitchen and studio, I subconsciously whispered to myself, “You matter. Your desires matter. I love you. You’re important to me.”
I still practice the self-care strategies that I share with my clients.
Think about it—how do you really soothe yourself? Do you have a glass of wine and watch two hours of TV, or do you show yourself true care and affection?
I’ve discovered that my average client comforts herself with behavior that actually detracts from her overall happiness. (I get it, I’ve been there. Read more about the shadowy side of my self-care on my blog.)
Years after that traumatic experience in college, I was still suffering from nightmares and flashbacks. At the time, I was running an organic pie company in rural Vermont. Being the Pie Girl meant long hours of physical labor rewarded with infinite day-old pastries and cups of black coffee.
Three years in, I was taken out by adrenal fatigue, depression, and food allergies. Worse than any of that was a pervasive unhappiness with my body and career. I was on the verge of a major self-induced sugar coma when I met Karin Witzig and Drew Rozell. They reminded me I was made for bigger things than living in a haze of powdered sugar, and basically talked me into going back to school for nutrition. Learning how to comfort myself without sugar was one of one of the toughest journeys of my life, but lady, it is so worth it. Relearning how to nourish myself was central to my recovery.
Since 2011, I’ve been using my background in nutrition, mindfulness, and art-making to guide my clients through the process of consciously recreating their self-respect and self-care—starting with their daily eating habits.
My goal is to have a global impact on the vitality of women; to inspire my clients to treat themselves to only the best so that they have the power and passion to do their best work for this world. Lord knows we need it.
I currently spend my time writing, fussing over my houseplants, and making pinch pots at my pottery co-op.
The CourageMakers podcast
It was totally exhilarating to be interviewed by Meg Kissak for Couragemakers, her weekly podcast for creative and passionate, mission-driven doers, makers and world-shakers designed to inspire and encourage fellow couragemakers, and spark a movement of women who are choosing themselves.
Turns out, I love to ramble on...but I also ended up talking about some pretty real stuff about six minutes in, so I encourage you to listen to this when you're feeling pretty safe and on your headphones if you've got young ears around.
All that being said, I LOVED being interviewed. If you or someone you know would like to chat with me on air or off, shoot me an email at email@example.com.
I love to give workshops, speak to groups, and be interviewed for podcasts + blogs!
Interview with Casey Shivers of BEKN
A quick professional bio:
I received my BA in Studio Art from the University of Vermont and attended the Pont Aven School for Contemporary Art in Brittany, France. I am a Certified Holistic Health Coach, and a graduate of the Landmark Forum and Advanced Course. Over the course of my career, I have taught painting classes to underprivileged kids, run a bakery in rural Vermont, taught cooking classes, and led workshops in Boulder on self-care, writing, drawing, and movement. I've been thinking about creative solutions for most of my life.
If you feel depressed, unfocused, or trapped, the first step is to schedule a phone call. Tell me who you are, what you’re all about, and where you are struggling. Together, we can revitalize your whole life.
Imagine that this is your morning routine:
Claire wakes up feeling well-rested a few moments before her alarm goes off. She puts on the tea kettle and sits with her notebook to collect her thoughts. She writes to empty her mind of all the chatter, and also to create the day that she is living into. Writing inspires her to move, and she spends a few minutes stretching before dancing her heart out to Fleetwood Mac's Rumors and doing some Pilates exercises.
After she's really breathing and warm, Claire hops in a quick shower, taking the time to acknowledge the awesome power of her body. She moisturizes, showing love to each muscle, and gets dressed in clothes that make her feel powerful and feminine, two qualities that she's hoping to demonstrate more of in her life.
She fixes herself a fantastic but simple breakfast, and sits down to eat. After eating, she checks her phone for the first time, just to make sure there have been no changes in her schedule. She picks up her bag, which is mostly packed from the night before, and heads out the door. Claire already knows which tasks are most important for her to complete today. She gives herself time to do the work that attracted her to this career.